How to know you’re being bullied at work
If you’re having a hard time at work, but you’re unsure how to pinpoint the source of unhappiness - it could be down to a bully.
If you feel that you dread work, you are intimidated by certain people or you’re being shouted at, put down, or even insulted, you may find that you’re being bullied.
How to deal with the bully
There are ways to deal with a bully in the workplace, that can make your life easier.
1. Confront them
Confronting your bully can be extremely scary and hard to do, but it is one of the most effective ways of getting them to stop. 29% of employees who are targets of bullies remain silent about their experiences. (1). You need to call out your bully on your own terms, whenever you feel you are ready to take action. Take a stand against them, and don’t let them belittle you. It may be hard to put words into action, but, as Jonathan Littman and Marc Hershon suggest in "I Hate People," bullies are “only effective when they’re on solid ground. The ground that you can take away.” (1).
2. Document the bullies actions
Anytime you feel you are bullied, take note of when, where, and what happened. It could be useful to also note who witnessed it and get them to write it down too. If there are multiple witnesses it can make it easier to speak up to HR when you know you have others on your side. It is important to mention to HR that the bully's actions are affecting your work, therefore affecting their business. Every target of a bully may lose up to 200 hours of productivity annually. If that targeted employee takes sick or vacation time, it may be a total of 400 hours of lost production to the employer. (2)
3. Tell someone
Don’t suffer in silence. Speak to a work colleague you can trust or your manager and consider going to HR to report it. Show your evidence against the bully and HR should do their best to resolve the problem. In the meantime, you should consider moving your working space away from them, so you see them less or even try working different hours to them.
If the bully is your boss
If you’re being bullied and it’s by your manager or boss, it can make it trickier to report it. Bosses comprise 61% of bullies. (2). Again, keeping quiet can make the working week difficult and not enjoyable. Going directly to HR to report it can be a solution, or you can go to your boss directly and tell them how their actions are making you feel. If you don’t want to do this alone, you can bring in a colleague, friend, or someone from HR. If the bullying is so bad that it is affecting your mental wellbeing, it could be time to find a new job. 72% of people will leave a job because they’ve been bullied or witnessed bullying in the workplace. (2)
How We Love Work can help
We Love Work can provide your business with a chatbot to monitor your employee’s wellbeing. With anonymous feedback, this tool can be extremely useful when trying to tackle workplace bullying. For more information or a free demo visit www.welovework.com